Life Skills Not Taught in School

5 Crucial Life Skills You’re Not Taught in School (and How to Learn Them)

The American education system is broken.

We are not learning life skills necessary to succeed in today’s world.

College costs continue to skyrocket (private schools now average $67,000 per year), yet the education we receive there is lackluster at best.

Courses and curriculum are completely devoid of necessary life skills, and instead encourage herd mentality; get a job and sit at a desk (for decades), accumulate debt, and marry the first or second person we date. Social and traditional media help reinforce this poisonous lifestyle.

The Failures of Modern Education

Teaching crucial life skills come secondary throughout our education. The lack of focus is so alarming that one has to question college entirely given the dearth of actionable knowledge we accumulate. When factoring in student loan debt, the situation becomes much worse.

Average student loan debt
Source: WSJ

“But college graduates make so more than non-graduates, right?!”


Wages are stagnate. According to the Economic Policy Institute:

The widespread problem of stagnant hourly wages is not a problem of insufficiently skilled or educated workers. As this figure shows, a four-year college degree has been no guarantee of decent wage growth. In 2013, inflation-adjusted hourly wages of young college graduates were lower than they were in the late 1990s, a trend that held for both young male and female college graduates. Thus, wage stagnation and erosion afflict even the one-third of workers who have earned a four-year college degree.

Wage Stagnation
Source: Economic Policy Institute

When you look at the numbers and the results, it hardly makes any sense.

Flawed curriculum is being taught to students who pay astronomical sums of money (and incur staggering debt) to enter a job market with no promise of meaningful wage growth.

Why isn’t this discussed more among the national media?

What They Don’t Tell You When You Graduate

Life won’t be what you expect.

We aren’t guaranteed a high paying job upon graduation. I remember visiting my college career center, seeing the propaganda on the walls.

First year graduates make an average of $65,000 a year!”

It didn’t take long for me to realize I wasn’t told the real story.

I was lied to.

I got a job right out of school with a company I had zero emotional connection to. The moral was pitiful, the day-to-day mundane, and the money terrible. There were scarce options.

I felt cheated.

17 years in school and I had more questions than answers.

What Every Kid Deserves to Know

Graduates are angry. They are adults in name only, lacking the necessary life skills needed for happiness and success. Add underemployment and student loans, and the problem becomes even worse. It’s a travesty.

What follows is my life skills curriculum, the topics I wish I was taught in school. For each life skill, you’ll also find valuable resources to fill the gap – articles, books, websites and people I have studied to teach myself the crucial knowledge I was lacking.

If we want to live a successful, happy life, on our own terms, we must seek knowledge on our own. 

Let’s get into it.

1. Communication Skills

Most young adults lack adequate communication skills. The social media era is to blame as it is easier than ever to avoid human contact. This has led to erosion of traditional face-to-face communication skills.

Interactions among strangers are a rarity. Everyone is always rushing around, headphones on, with their eyes on the ground or glued to their phone. I see this daily on public transit; complete silence, aside from the occasional ding of a phone.

Networking: In the past, business networking was the norm. Something as simple as grabbing drinks and mingling with like-minded, successful individuals. Gatherings still occur, but we are overwhelmed with other options. Networking events are more common in larger cities (where I live), yet I hardly know anyone who attends.


Nowadays, due to technology and social ineptitude, networking has become less of a priority. We are uncomfortable with face-to-face interactions. We hide behind computers and smart phones. It has become the norm.

Mentors: Every man needs a mentor, someone who is successful but also helpful and willing to teach. It is unlikely our social circle alone will offer such individuals. But without networking, it’s impossible to find a mentor. Mentorship was once a common happening, but is all but extinct except for the higher rungs of the corporate ladder. Young people are desperate for guidance but lack the social skills to seek out mentors. Books allow for “virtual mentors,” but nothing equates face-to-face interaction and the development of human relationships.

Negotiating: The biggest decisions in life include negotiating. Negotiating is an art.

To become better negotiators, we must practice. Most of us don’t realize how many situations require strong negotiating skills.

ons you don't learn in school - negotiating

What else should we negotiate?

  • Time off
  • Utility bills (cable, electricity)
  • Vehicle purchases/leases
  • Real estate purchases
  • Street vendors
  • Flea market items

Resources to Help:

2. Financial Literacy

Most of us lack the basics when it comes to personal finance.

The stats are grim:

  • Americans have $11 trillion in consumer debt.
  • 43% of Americans spend more than they earn.
  • Only 59% of Americans have more than $500 put away in case of emergencies.
  • 75% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck.
  • 27% of Americans have no savings at all.

Pretty alarming right? Yet I remember one course I took, in high school, that touched upon personal finance.

5 Crucial Life Skills - Personal Finance

Americans are deficient in the following areas:

  • How to save for retirement
    • The basics of retirement vehicles such as IRA’s, Roth IRA’s and 401k’s
  • The process of buying a house
    • The basics
    • Documents you may need
    • Requirements (work status, income, credit score)
  • The basics on how to save money
    • What to spend to what you earn (not to indulge on material possessions)
    • The dangers of credit cards
  • Basic tax knowledge
    • Why tax is necessary in the first place
    • The different taxes, exemptions, and credits.
    • The difference tax filing codes (Google “Should I claim 0 or 1.” It’s a shit show).

Most of us could comfortably discuss half of these items. Maybe. 

My courses barely touched upon the above topics, and I majored in finance. I took plenty of high level courses on investing, and some basic tax courses. But learning the basics of personal finance? Nope, didn’t happen.

Resources to Help:

3. How the America Government Works

The majority of Americans are woefully unprepared to vote. That’s if they even vote at all. In the 2012 Presidential elections, only 57.5% of eligible Americans voted (Source). The 2014 mid-term elections saw the worst turnout in 70 years according to this Yahoo news article.

What does this mean?

It seems most Americans aren’t interested in politics. Many may believe that it’s a losing game and a waste of time; that elected officials are the smoothest talkers who are best able to manipulate the masses with their beliefs and calls to action.

However, studies show that the majority of Americans are lost when it comes to understanding government and how it actually works.

ons you don't learn in school - how the government works

The Annenberg Public Policy Center conducted a study which showed 36% of Americans could name the three branches of American government.

From the source: 

Other groups, like the Civics Education Initiative, are pushing to include more civics education in high schools by requiring students to pass the same citizenship test that immigrants do when they come to the U.S. That group will introduce legislation in seven states that would require passage of the citizenship test before graduating.

And then there is this alarming quote by Josiah Bunting III once chairman of the National Civic Literacy Board of the Intercollegiate Studies Institute. He states,

“There is an epidemic of economic, political, and historical ignorance in our country. It is disturbing enough that the general public failed ISI’s civic literacy test, but when you consider the even more dismal scores of elected officials, you have to be concerned. How can political leaders make informed decisions if they don’t understand the American experience? Colleges can, and should, play an important role in curing this national epidemic of ignorance (Source).”

The workings of the government are not taught effectively during our schooling.

Shouldn’t our government be a higher priority than chemistry or algebra?

Resources to Help:

4. Gender Relations

Men today have no clue how to communicate with women.

This is the cause for a multitude of issues, ranging from depression and severe anger to violent crimes such as rape and sexual assault.

We are never taught that men and women differ biologically. Men expect women to think the same way they do, and are surprised when a woman gets angry or upset over something. Because of this confusion, frustration and drama are the norm in most relationships.

At no point is a man ever educated on how to attract and sleep with women. The average male fails miserably at attracting quality women. Most guys fall into sex (get lucky), usually intoxicated and with an average to below average, promiscuous chick.

When sober, they have no idea how to approach or communicate with attractive women. Instead, these men cat call, send dick pics, and flaunt wealth and status to try to buy sex.

A few wise men have figured out the game and have wild success with women.

Most have not, and never will.

ons you don't learn in school - gender relations

In my estimation, based on my experiences:

  • 30% of men successfully attract and sleep with 85% of eligible women.
  • 50% of men are left to fight over the other 15% of unattractive and undesired women.
  • 20% of men go sexless, either voluntarily (MGTOW) or involuntarily (mass anger and depression).

When I went on an online dating spree, I gathered a wealth of information from the women I went out with.

Without fail, they complained about their past failed dates. I was sent text conversations and told pathetic stories of men trying to court these women in all the wrong ways. Guys acted needy, awkward, and clumsy.

At first, I struggled to understand the why.

Why were these guys so clueless?

Now it makes sense. We are not taught this stuff in school.

I was clueless with women after my breakup several years back.

What did I do?

I was pro-active on the matter. I exhausted my time reading about how women worked and how to attract them.

Self-educating is the first step, but actual trial and error is crucial. I went out in the field and learned through experience. It’s the only way to master something. If it wasn’t for my strong want to learn and improve, I would have been frustrated and angry. Men need regular sex to be happy and healthy.

We aren’t given the tools and resources by the education system as most topics sexual in nature are “taboo” and are avoided.

Self-education remains the only way.

Resources to Help: I’ve read a ton of helpful resources on this topic. I’ll choose a few of the best, but some are sure to be left out. 

  • The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them (book) – The first book I read after leaving a long-term relationship. The best book I’ve read on women, and what I recommend to every blue pill guy I know. Goes deep into the biological differences between men and women, among countless other things.
  • The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want (book) – Not far behind “The Manuel,” La Ruina writes for the truly inexperienced male. A very easy and informative read.
  • The Alpha Male 2.0 (book) – This book covers women in-depth, but also provides a concrete plan to become successful in every aspect of life. Tons of originality and actionable advice; I took 15 pages of written notes upon reading it. Incredibly detailed, under the radar resource.


5. Health and Nutrition

Never in human history have we used so little energy on a daily basis. Most people spend their entire day sitting down.

With that, obesity rates have risen dramatically over the past 25 years. This technological driven sedentary lifestyle isn’t the only issue however.

5 Crucial Life Skills You’re Not Taught in School - obesity

Lost in the obesity crisis are two main issues; the lack of proper guidance while in school and the almost complete lack of discussion by government officials.

Due to lack of knowledge, most people have no clue how to read a nutrition label in the grocery store.

Most couldn’t answer the below questions:

  • What is a calorie?
  • What is the difference between proteins, fats, and carbohydrates?
  • How many calories should I eat a day?
  • What is the proper workout regime for my body type?

We are given no incentive to be healthy. We are not penalized for being unhealthy. People are lazy, but we aren’t being motivated either. Elected officials will harp on “Obama Care” and other “issues” facing America, but fail to acknowledge the obesity crisis in any meaningful way.

Every state has a 20% obesity rate, and weight-related diseases remain the leading cause for premature deaths, at a staggering 3.4 million people per year. 

Heart disease, diabetes, even some cancers; all relate to obesity. It’s disgusting and shameful that this issue is not taken more serious, both in schooling and among national rhetoric.

Resources to Help:

  • Bigger Leaner Stronger (book) – The best book I’ve read on nutrition and fitness. Mike Matthews runs a superb blog as well. Everything is researched back and easily laid out in a practical way. He leaves you with little excuse to get your diet and body on point.
  • Body of a Spartan (eBook) – Courtesy of Victor Pride (Bold and Determined), this book is right to the point -Heavy compound movements and a basic, wholesome diet. Great resource.
  • YouTube – There are many great channels that give great content when it comes to nutrition, workout splits, routines, etc. Search for some of the below guys.
    • Hodge Twins
    • Rob Riches
    • Brandon Carter
    • Mike Matthews (Muscle for Life)
    • Brendan Myers

The Bottom Line: Self-Education is the Only Way to Fill the Gaps

Learning life skills is not a priority of the education machine in America.

Success and happiness are hard to come by because we lack the proper tools as we enter adulthood. Many graduates take low paying jobs, with long hours and high stress. A host of potential issues arise, such as poor social relationships, anger, frustration, and even depression.

I can only imagine the overall improvement if these topics were mandatory at every level of education.

Would there be a boost in creativity?

Less poverty and obesity?

Less violence?

My opinion is yes.

But we will never know unless change is enacted.

Until then, whats the solution?

Never stop self-educating. 

5 Crucial Life Skills - Always Keep Learning

Read as much as you can. Read books. Read blogs and articles. Google things you don’t understand. Keep learning until the day you die.

We are in a new era where any question can be researched and understood in minutes. Learning life skills has never been easier. 

We can sit around and wait for a solution to these issues. Or we can become pro-active and seek out the knowledge necessary for success and happiness.

42% of college graduates never read another book.


What will you do?

Take control of your education and don’t look back.

Hopefully the resources I provided will help get you where you need to be. If you are deficient with any of these life skills, don’t be alarmed. You will easily become an expert in no time, as long as you are pro-active and diligent.

What Do You Think??

I would love to hear feedback on this topic. This is easily my longest, most researched piece. I am extremely passionate about education and the deficiencies that are glossed over at the highest levels of our country.

Share your thoughts, comments and questions with me below. Do you agree? Disagree?

My goal is to get an active discussion going. Thanks for reading.

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