A few days ago, I came across this TIME article titled “People Who Use Emojis Have More Sex.” The data came from Match.com’s annual dating survey and concluded that 54% of emoji user’s had sex in 2014. As we all know, it is extremely hard to gauge tone, context, and emotions through text. Emojis help bridge that gap, and if used strategically, can definitely take your text game to another level.
From the article:
It’s notoriously difficult to read tone in texts and emails, but emojis can bridge the gap. “[Emoji users] want to give their texts more personality,” says Fisher. “Here we have a new technology that absolutely jeopardizes your ability to express your emotion… there is no more subtle inflection of the voice … and so we have created another way to express emotions and that is the emoji.”
I have read a lot of manosphere blogs that recommend against using emjois. In fact, many of them are adamant that a man should text as little as possible as infrequent as possible, as to not come off as needy. Many guides have been written and there are entire websites devoted to this topic.
I certainly believe the “less is more” strategy is quite efficient, but also believe that it is up to your better judgement to analyze the context of the situation and go from there. No two situations are the same, and thus you should not peg-hole yourself into a certain “strategy” or “formula” when it comes to texting. There are certain things I almost universally text a new girl (to be discussed in a future post), but I always adapt my strategy based upon how I view the girl’s demeanor and the current familiarity between us.
The way I look at it, you have to be pretty inept and excessive to blow it with a girl strictly through your text game.
As far as emjois go – I use them all the time. I use them with girls I have yet to meet, and girls I have established a relationship with. Sometimes when I’m lazy or want to maintain frame, I’ll respond to a long-winded text with just an emoji or two (usually the thumbs up). There is n harm in using emjois and if it ends up being a deal-breaker with a girl (which i can’t imagine), than it is a major reg flag and you most likely avoided a drama filled situation.
I never worry about my text frequency. In the past year, I estimate I’ve texted/messaged with at least 85-90 women and have never felt my text game was the reason something did not go well, or did not happen at all. Some girls I texted with a lot. Some, very seldom. Again, it is up to you to quickly
I have a personal rule I use called “Three texts and you’re out.” If I text a girl three times with no response, I’m done with that situation. If I hear from her down the road, I may entertain it, but I 100% will not initiate another conversation with her unless she texts me first. I do not lose frame, because I make sure I always have options (and hint to this when around new women). This is the only way to guard against needy tendencies that may arise if you are getting flaky text game from a girl.
Your physical appearance and body language is going to drive 80% of your interactions with women. This is the reality. Sure, strong game can definitely bridge the gap for an unattractive man, but guys who are good-looking and physically fit will seldom have to worry about blowing it because they sent too many texts too quick, or used emojis.If you wow her with your charisma, confidence, body language, and alpha male tendencies – she sure as hell is not letting you get away over your text game. Always be working on yourself. It never ends.
If you have engrained the outcome independent mindset that is mandatory for leading a successful, robust single life, than you will never worry about such trivial matters.