Most people live a fear-based existence, constantly worrying about the uncertainty of the future. Thoughts around death, lack of money and family consume the average person. Everyone is obsessed with positive outcomes. Society is obsessed with uncertainty and the result is anxiety, unhappiness, and a fear of the unknown.
The only certainty is that the future is an unscripted journey which is impossible to map out. We will meet countless obstacles and situations in our lives, both negative and positive; and it is a waste of time worrying about what may or may not happen.
One of the biggest advantages the human race has over other species is the ability to change and grow from our experiences. When we hit a roadblock, we CAN and MUST be resilient and adjust for the better. When you constantly tweak your approach to life is when you see results that matter.
Do some of the below scenario’s apply to your own life?
- Worrying about where you will be in 5 years?
- How about 10 years?
- Worrying where you will live for the majority of your life?
- Concerned that you will be single forever because you are in a rut and are seeing all of your friends getting engaged and married?
- Petrified that you will not achieve financial security and forever be living paycheck to paycheck?
- Dwelling over the fact that you will one day die and cease to exist forever?
These are NATURAL feelings.
The key is to embrace uncertainty and use it as an ADVANTAGE to create the life you desire. Anxiety over such events can derail one’s thoughts and focus.
If you are always in a state of anxiety and fearfulness, how can you carry out anything worthwhile?
Too many times we IMAGINE how a certain situation MIGHT play out, only to be disappointed when it doesn’t go according to this vision. We get so caught up in the dream that we are unable to process the reality when the situation goes in a different direction.
Take each event as it comes to you and embrace new situations with ZERO EXPECTATIONS. Realize that we often have little to NO control over the uncertainty of the future.
Our limited and narrow minds cannot see all the possible outcomes, thus it’s pointless to script a fantasy in our minds.
If everybody could script their lives, we would all be walking around happy, confident, and rich. That isn’t the case.
What you often see and people who walk around pretending to be happy and carefree; only to be a mess behind closed doors. Don’t be that person. Control your fears and anxiety over uncertainty. Realize these feelings are perfectly natural, and can be beneficial IF CONTROLLED.
Some things will shake your way, and others won’t. Such is life.
Be CONFIDENT in yourself; turn each of these experiences into a learning experience and gain self-assurance as you pass each test life throws at you. The feelings of completeness and achievement are amazing once this becomes a recurring theme. It is the greatest confidence builder.
Think back to earlier times in which you have thought this way?
Was the result as bad as your thoughts?
The most likely answer is NO!
Embracing the unknown and owning uncertainty will drastically change your outlook on the world and teach you to take life as it comes with little to no expectations.
Nothing jump-starts success more than adversity.
If you haven’t been able to tell I am a big quote guy. I save a bunch of go-to quotes in my Evernote account and am always looking for positive reinforcement in the form of those with much more wisdom and experience than myself. Below I have included some of my favorites on the unknown and uncertainty.
“The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with.” – Tony Robbins
“Embrace relational uncertainty. It’s called romance. Embrace spiritual uncertainty. It’s called mystery. Embrace occupational uncertainty. It’s called destiny. Embrace emotional uncertainty. It’s called joy. Embrace intellectual uncertainty. It’s called revelation.”
― Mark Batterson
“Although our intellect always longs for clarity and certainty, our nature often finds uncertainty fascinating.”
― Carl von Clausewitz
“The source to low self-esteem is the lack of control you feel you have in your life. If you spend your life competing with others; trying to make right the wrongs done to you; or waste your time trying to look right, you will never achieve contentment and emotional balance. People you encounter in life can’t be controlled by you. You only have control of yourself. Build your life around a relationship with a higher power and achieving what you’re passionate about. When you let go of what you can’t control, true peace can then enter your life. This is the path to achieving emotional balance.”
― Shannon L. Alder