Fulfillment is Key: Finding Balance in a Hectic World

Fulfillment is Key: Finding Balance in a Hectic World

What if I told there was a simple life hack that would improve your hunger and passion?

A daily task so easy, that it almost seems like fool’s gold. This life hack will not only help you stay focused and appreciative, but will also help feed your fulfillment and feelings of worth.

This life hack is simple; it’s called gratitude.

I’ve touched on gratitude here and there in my writings, specifically when I discussed the importance and value of charitable giving. Today I will focus more on gratitude, and the benefits it brings to our daily lives.

My Gratitude Routine

When I’m not writing, I spend a lot of time reading and listening to interviews with people whom I admire (and who has created a successful, fulfilling life for themselves).

A common theme of these interviews is the discussion of gratitude; staying grounded and appreciative of life. Several guests described a daily ritual in which they remind themselves to be thankful for what they have, as opposed to be focused on what they don’t have. 

So, I gave it a try.

Every morning I wake up and recite 5 things I am thankful for. Most of these are small in scale…

  • The ability to walk down the stairs (when I was sick, I couldn’t do this)
  • The love & support of my mother
  • Freedom to go in any direction with my life
  • Having the monetary means to live a comfortable life
  • The joy of being able to learn and grow daily

As simple as some of these sound, there are millions (maybe billions) of people who would die for the things I listed.

Take being thankful for a comfortable life, for instance. Although the definition of comfort varies around the world, let’s use this basic definition:

Free from danger and enough money for consistent and uninterrupted food and shelter.

How many people can check the box on this?

We take comfort for granted. Around the world, millions struggle for survival. What we brush off as normal, others would find astonishing. Thus, it is imperative to stay grounded and appreciative of what we have.

Fulfillment is Key

The renowned performance coach Tony Robbins once said, “giving is living.”

Whether it is time, money, or goods, giving to those in need elicits a positive feeling within us, more-so than money, believe it or not.

Don’t get me wrong, you need to make money to give money. But you don’t need money to give your time.

Every week, I go to a local elementary school and read to a child. The high I get from this experience lasts several days. Helping others makes us feel better. Not only are we helping someone who needs it, but we are also putting our own life (and issues) into focus. We realize that things could be much, much worse. Most importantly, when we give time or money to a cause to a worthwhile cause, we feel fulfilled.

Fulfillment is key to a long, healthy, prosperous life. By aligning our goals with that which fulfills us, we are laying the groundwork for momentum. It might take some time, but the rewards will come if we are consistent and focused on what matters, those pursuits which fire us up inside. This isn’t a “do what you love” endorsement; it’s a “do what makes you feel whole” endorsement.

I’ve met a lot of people who make good money, but are empty inside. They have nothing that makes them tick, that drives them to greatness. The reason is simple; they are unfulfilled. The work to make more money (which they waste in droves), and do so in a field that likely brings said money, and little else. Not only are they unfulfilled, they are ungrateful and often selfish, always concerned with their own problems and issues. Such people harbor negative energy and their misery can be seen from a mile away.

The Cause & Effect of Life

Never confuse financial success with life success. The former is most often achieved irrespective of fulfillment, but is fleeting and unsubstantial. The latter is only achieved when we find balance, consistency and hunger for bigger and better achievements, both for ourselves and others.

Happiness and fulfillment define progress.

With those two in place, money won’t be far behind.

Self-reliance leads to an ironclad sense of self-discipline. In turn, we learn to spend our time wisely and productively. We self-educate, take risks, and give our time and money to others. We develop ruthless focus and dedicate our time efficiently. Passion begins to matter.

In return, we feel a sense of purpose. This process becomes a powerful feedback loop, turning us into a powerful force capable of deep, creative thought and consistent action.

Fulfillment ChartI often hear it’s often necessary to be overworked, stressed, and often miserable while working to achieve big goals. That you can’t align your passions with your moneymaking process.

Is this true? Only when you aren’t hungry enough to do everything it takes to get what you want.

It’s vital we don’t neglect the joy of life, mostly through ignoring passions and desires. This can be toxic and cause severe unhappiness. Too many get caught up busting their ass, and then look back and realize there is no life left to live.

Make money and grow at the same time, and that story changes. Instead of being burnt out and wealthy, be fulfilled, happy, balanced AND wealthy.

It’s possible. Think bigger.

Remember: The pursuit of money is only as good as the process is sound. Trading time for money over the course of years is a poor use of one’s life. The goal is to become financially independent while you still have your life ahead of you.

Closing Thoughts

What to Implement:

Think of 5 things you are grateful for.

Type them on your phone and look at them (no need to save them). Spend a minute or two reflecting. 

Do this every morning, when you wake. Make it a routine.

Over time, this sense of gratitude will sub-consciously improve your mood, relationships, and work ethic.

It has helped me in my day-to-day work, as well as my relationships. I am more carefree and accepting; I realize I can only affect my own actions. I no longer stress and worry about those issues out of my control. I’m grateful for my life and the people in it, so I spend less time worrying about what I don’t have and more time enjoying the things I do have.

Want to increase gratitude even more?

Use your time (or money) to give back. It’s worked for me, and has added another aspect of balance to my life.

Self-discipline + Passionate Pursuits + Gratitude = Endless Opportunities

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  • You know when I first heard about the whole “giving is great” stuff I was skeptical. But that was only because I didn’t understand it. I saw it as being a doormat that constantly gives when there is much more going on. Now that I run my own site giving to get makes so much more sense. It’s not some pollyanna let’s all hold hands and dance BS it’s real and practical. You can’t truly be fulfilled unless you give. Learning this took some time but it has been well worth it. Wish had read something like this in high school would have helped the process lol.

    • Hey Charles – very true indeed – we are never taught the importance of giving, whether it’s time or money. It’s a necessary component of a balanced, healthy life.

      Thanks for the comment!