Why a Chip on Your Shoulder is Mandatory for Success

Why a Chip on Your Shoulder is Mandatory for Success

You need a chip on your shoulder to maximize self-discipline and consistency.

Without an intrinsic purpose, attention to detail wavers and eventually ceases.

The reason why we  give up so quickly is because we do not have a strong enough purpose to stay the course, especially when complications arise.

There are days where we might not feel like doing anything. That is natural – our state is often in flux. To recognize our bipolar effort levels is the first step. To harness them, however, is much more crucial.

We cannot work only when we feel like it and expect to achieve anything worthwhile.

Such a strategy will never achieve mastery. But as we know, life often can get in the way.

Whether it’s going to the gym, working on a side hustle, or even a date with a beautiful woman – we can struggle to find the mental strength to follow through on occasion.

Lacking a catalyst, fear and laziness will consume and paralyze us. 

To master an ability, we must engage in efficient repetition. The hard part is consistency.

A chip helps keep us on track with consistency and self-discipline. A chip gives us an edge.

We must create momentum. A chip motivates us to task every single day – keeping the flow in tact and ensuring continuous progress. This is the key to getting things done.

Using the Past: Golden Chips

I find it easy to manufacture a chip on my shoulder – a “slight” to motivate me towards the completion of a task. This innate ability has benefited me immensely.

I’m not working hard enough.

I’m being lazy.

I’m making excuses.

That person has  ___  that I don’t have (positive envy)

I’m not maximizing my talent. 

I’m blessed with the ability to use harsh memories to fire myself up. I can seemingly manufacture disgust out of thin air. I use everything around me to piss myself off.

I have only one criteria that need to be met in order for something to enter my “chip rotation.”

It needs to be a major slight. A true slap to the face, an insult to my manhood.

I need to connect to the memory. Otherwise, the memory is useless as a motivator.

You will know if your specific memory with fuel your fire because you will feel yourself getting pissed off thinking about it.

You’ll close your eyes and transport yourself to the moment.

Your heart will tick, just a little faster.

The hair on your arms raises up.

Your jaw will clench.

When this happens, you know you found it, a Golden Chip, the catalyst you need for consistent action every day.

Golden Chips will be some of our greatest motivators.

To be effective, a Golden Chip needs to be timeless.

This is a memory that can be remembered in vivid detail; moments that caused great angst or embarrassment.

Why You Need a Chip on Your Shoulder: Golden Chips

What can serve as a Golden Chip?

Here are some examples:

-Is there a specific instance where you were humiliated?

-Have you been called out by a female for an inadequacy?

-Has an ex-girlfriend cheated on you, or verbally abused you?

-Have you been let down in a friendship?

-Were you bullied as a child?

I have two specific instances from my past that are my go-to Golden Chips

These chips define a moment if my life that was sad and despondent, which is what makes them so powerful. Only certain memories will give you the emotional response needed to use as a Golden Chip, a motivator for any situation.

My Catalyst for Change

Here are my two moments:

1) A Oneitis Awakening

During college, I was still in a LTR with a high school girlfriend. It was the only “love” I ever knew, the only girl I had slept with to that point.

In one night, I found out she slept with 6 guys behind my back, all in a 5 month period. Worse yet, multiple acquaintances knew about it.

The most horrifying part of the situation was that I “took a break” to “think about things,” only to resume the relationship a few weeks later.

I defined a beta loser at the time. The relationship predictably fell apart a year later.

Naturally, this harsh experience shaped the person I am today.

Flash forward today, and  I don’t need to spend more than a few seconds rehashing it to fire myself up.

This modern-day “microaggression” is my Golden Chip; trauma for many, but pure adrenaline for me.

2) Brutal Honesty

I entered into another relationship in my mid 20’s.

No cheating this time, but the typical issues were front and center – infrequent sex, constant bickering, nonchalant views towards things, lack of empathy, etc..

I remember a specific moment when my ex said:

“What are you going to do? You don’t even know how to talk to girls.”

I can’t remember how I responded, but I’m sure I quickly fired back a rebuttal. The truth was that she was right – I had no clue how to talk to women.

How did I respond?

I spent the first two months of my single life reading everything I could get my hands on.

I found GLL on YouTube and devoured his content.

I bought the 10 best sellers on Amazon involving women, including gems such as Bang and The Manual.

Then I hit the field.

I failed. I looked silly at times. But I tweaked my approach and kept at it.

I was ruthless in my focus and dedication, using her words to fuel me along the way.

Muhammad Ali Quotes on Repetition

In a 10 month period, I went on a wholesome spree. I combined knowledge with dedication, improving every aspect of myself, from the physical to mental and every minor detail in between.

Without these two Golden Chips, I’m not sure if my life would be what it is today. In fact, I know it wouldn’t be.

In hindsight, I chastise my old self. However, I stay thankful that I woke up, embraced the red pill (and shameless masculinity), and now have the rest of my relatively young life to harness, tweak, and enhance my way of life.

I needed the kick in the face to motivate me, to fire me up, and create a savage intensity to achieve my goals.

Bottom Line

Golden Chips create the catalyst we need for self-discipline and consistency.

It’s fine to use external factors for motivation, but we need to be careful. 

Our best results are achieved intrinsically, a Golden Chip being the best long-term option.

Find 2-3 memories that cause you anger that you can harness and turn into a positive reinforcement.

Understand: I do not advocate living in the past. You must harness these emotions to bring good to your current life.

Every successful person has something that makes them tick, that forces them to show up every day with their best effort. 

We hear athletes speak of a chip on their shoulder due to being drafted later than expected, or being passed over by a certain team. An opposing player might say something foolish int he media, and a team rushes to use it as a chip for their upcoming game.

Even established global sports and business icons have chips on their shoulders – think of luminaries such as LeBron James, Tiger Woods, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, etc.

All can visualize a moment from their past which helps to propel them in their future. 

It’s mandatory for success.

Talk soon,

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Have you used Golden Chips in your own life? Let me know below!

  • Oliver Maerk

    http://freedompowerandwealth.com

    Great post!
    To overcome „oneitis“ is one of the hardest things for many guys. For me the
    late teens where thoughest years. I was lucky enought to have a mentor, so that
    I could overcome that time pretty well.

    • Hi Oliver, thanks for the comment. Yes, oneitis effects us all at one point, usually in our youth, but for some, this can unfortunately last their whole lives. Good that you figured it out early.

  • EA

    Great article. My golden chip was when an ex said to me “why can’t you just be normal” when we were drunkly arguing. The phrase sounds like nothing but at the time my dad had been in hospital with recurrent mental health issues, and I has been trying to make things work between us. She then took a break, dumped me 2 weeks after, then I spent night after night trawling the internet reading about dating, came across some Red Pill stuff, then Danger and Play, then the comments section, miles Twitter and here. The break up was 18 months ago and we had only been dating for 5 months but I was a clueless idiot who genuinely thought it would last. The break up was between the 1st and 2nd year of a course I was doing and I remember sitting in the library telling myself that I would maximise every chance I had to succeed. Fast forward to now and I got a top mark, an award for best student out of 22, I them did am internship which led me onto the job I am in now, and I sit typing this after getting back from a 1 hour run, a cold shower and a solid meal I prepped, my room is clean, my journal is filled in and I feel ready to face the week. Apologies for the long comment but even typing this brings back memories of intense shame which I have tapped into when I have been stagnating to drive me forward!

    Great article Axel.

    • Thanks for the comment EA – it’s great to see how much progress you have made in those 18 months!

      It seems like you have a solid routine in place. That is usually the hardest part. Now, dedication and consistency become the next challenge. You seem like you have that covered, so keep up the great work. Glad you have seen the light, it will only get better from here.

      • EA

        Thanks Axel.

        Lots to work on in the coming year. With lent coming tomorrow I am going to be giving up sugar and caffeine for that period, decided it’s best not to tell anyone unless they ask. Keeping goals quiet works best for myself. As far as consistency the journalling is the key to making that happen to be honest.

        Will keep reading!

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